Wanting a different reality without wanting to change

People do a lot of complaining about their weight, lack of sleep, having no energy, and amount of stress they have, especially on social media. It’s so easy to sit down at your computer or on your phone and type out a big complaint about something going on in your life. We all have stuff going on in our life, however, we don’t all deal with it the same. It seems to me people claim to want a different reality in their life, especially their health (weight, energy, stress, and sleep); however, they want a different reality without wanting to change.

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I wish I…

I believe in the power of prayer. However, I do not believe in the power of wishing without action. Here are some “I wish” statements I’ve come across.

I wish I could:

  • Lose weight.
  • Sleep better.
  • Could come off medications.
  • Be stronger.
  • Walk up stairs without giving out of breath.

It’s not bad to have goals and dreams that start with “I wish”. The problem is when you don’t realize that you have the ability to turn those wishes into reality. The key being YOU have the ability; however, do YOU really want to change to make those wishes come true?

In order to lose weight, you have to evaluate your calories in versus calories out. If you’re not losing weight with the foods you eat or the amount of food you eat, it makes sense to me that something has to change.

If you want to sleep better, you need to investigate the reasons you don’t sleep well. Are you taking medications that hinder sleep? Do you drink alcohol or caffeine close to bedtime? Do you take long naps during the day? Could you have undiagnosed sleep apnea? Wishing for better sleep, isn’t going to help you sleep better.

Exercise and healthy eating can contribute to coming off medications, feeling stronger, and walking up stairs without giving out of breath. But how many people are willing to make those changes in order to create a different reality?

I just want a good diet to follow

In a society where the diet and weight loss industry is over $78 BILLION, there’s plenty of diets out there to choose from. Just recently I was in a conversation with someone who made the comment they needed help with living a healthier lifestyle. I reached out to see if they would be interested in working with a health coach. Unfortunately, working with a coach was not in their budget at this time. They simply wanted ideas on a great diet to start.

Here’s the deal, I don’t necessarily promote diets. In a different conversation this week as well, I answered a question a person posed about a specific fad diet going around. As a health and fitness professional I feel very confident in the health advice I give. In reference to this particular fad diet, I’m not a fan at all! Another person responded back to me that they had great success with losing weight on this particular diet and without much exercise.

I was sure to congratulate this person as losing weight is hard work and takes effort. However, statistically, weight quickly lost is weight that will be gained back, and potentially more, over the following 2 to 5 years. Most people can lose weight on any diet out there, as long as they are on the diet. Without a plan in place to maintain the weight loss, or lifestyle modifications in place to address what caused you to be overweight or obese in the first place, when you stop the diet, there’s a good chance the weight is coming back.

Changes I advocate

In response to not exercising much, I explained why I’m an advocate for exercise. Cardiorespiratory, “cardio”, exercise is needed to help promote a healthy heart and lungs. When it comes to losing weight (calories in versus calories out), cardio exercise can help you achieve a caloric deficit (calories out).

I’m an advocate for resistance or weight training. Resistance training helps improve muscular strength and endurance. Resistance training also helps promote stronger bones, balance, and stability.

I also encourage eating more nutritious foods such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, and dairy products. Eating healthier doesn’t always been making the perfect choice and restricting yourself from foods you really enjoy from time to time. Eating healthier means learning to make better choices then what you’re currently choosing if not eating nutrient dense foods.

Improving your sleep habits and learning stress management skills also help you live a healthier lifestyle. I’m an advocate for high-quality CBD products to help with sleep, pain and inflammation relief, and coping with daily stress. Deep breathing techniques, yoga, prayer, and stretching are other ways to help improve sleep and stress management as well.

Lifestyle change doesn’t have to be difficult

Giving the advice to eat better, start some physical activity, and improve your sleep is not always well received. We live in a diet mentality society. To lose weight, the first thought someone has is “I need to go on a diet.” Diet plans and programs have spent a lot of money in advertising to make you believe that the only way to lose weight and be healthier is to follow their diet or program.

Again, all the diets and programs out there will help you lose weight as long as you follow their plan or program. As a health coach, I don’t teach you to follow a plan or program. I help empower you to make the necessary changes in your life to live a healthier lifestyle for the rest of your life. YOU have the ability to change; and YOU are the expert on your life. All you have to do is make the decision to start making the necessary changes in the following areas: foods you eat, being active versus being sedentary, stopping smoking or excessive alcohol use, learning how to manage stress, and finding ways to attain better sleep.

When you’re tired of complaining and just wishing for things to get better and you’re ready to take action, seek help from people who can help you on your journey. Your health and wellness is a journey and something that needs to be worked on daily. Temporary diets can help you lose weight, which is great for preventing weight related chronic diseases. However, eating nutrient dense foods, physical activity, stress management, and good sleep hygiene can help you improve your health and wellness for the rest of your life.

In health – Jennifer

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